Tales from the Land of Yummy

Some quotes I found and like...

2008-06-03T17:22:21Z

"Dating's like a New York City playground -- you gotta step through a lot of poop to get to the swings."

"No man is worth your tears, and the one who really is, won't make you cry." (author unknown)

"A lover should be someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words."

Monogamy is Overrated

2008-01-03T12:01:37Z

*** Bitter Party of One ***

Monogamy is boring
Monogamy is an illusion
Monogamy is about control
Monogamy is about insecurity
Monogamy is about appearances
Monogamy is not reality
Monogamy has too many definitions
Monogamy is a word used for comfort

I used think I wanted monogamy. But then one day I realized that I could never settle down with just one cock for the rest of my life.

So do I want to be single? Nope. I want to commit myself to one man; give him my heart, my companionship, my hand to hold in public and in private, my body to pleasure and get pleasure from, my arms to snuggle within, and me in his bed every night.

I want to give to someone the most I able to give, which seems like quite a lot to me. Unfortunately that occasional sucking other men's cocks things always seems to kill the deal. At least I am honest and up front about it.

Which brings me to the other part of this story. I find it ironic that many, many, many times I have encountered couples who make a big deal about their "monogamy;" I am not sure if they have an alternative definition of monogamy; but it never fails that at least one of them has sex outside of the "monogamous" relationship. Or even more mystifying is the couples that are "monogamous," but they do 3 ways. Did I miss something?

Actually I have come to the conclusion the the word monogamy is used by couples to create an illusion of how couples think they want to be perceived, instead of describing the true nature of their relationship.

Fetish vs. Preference or Like

2007-11-11T14:00:01Z

Some words may be too strong for the work place.

I recently put a pic of me sucking a toe on my Bear411 profile. I think it is a sexy pic and it is the foot of someone that I really enjoy getting naked with. Of course that pic brings up a lot of "So you have a foot fetish?" IMs. Not too long ago I had a discussion with a hot man on Bear411 thefreek about the difference between a fetish, a like or a preference. I don't think I have a foot fetish, I look at it as me enjoying getting my mouth and tongue on a hot set of toes every once in a while.

The online dictionary defines fetish as:

fet·ish – noun
1. an object regarded with awe as being the embodiment or habitation of a potent spirit or as having magical potency.
2. any object, idea, etc., eliciting unquestioning reverence, respect, or devotion: to make a fetish of high grades.
3. Psychology. any object or nongenital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation.

from another entry:

3. Something, such as a material object or a nonsexual part of the body, that arouses sexual desire and may become necessary for sexual gratification.
4. An abnormally obsessive preoccupation or attachment; a fixation.

It appears what makes something a fetish is that it is habitual, necessary for sexual gratification, or is a fixation.

Guess what, I have a COCK fetish!! Oh wait that is genitalia. Damn! I was sure cock was my fetish ;-)

Now back to toes. Does the sight of toes excite me? Yes, especially when they are connected to hot feet that are connected to a hot man! Does the sucking of toes make my cock rock hard? Yes. The reality is that the same can be answered for me to those two questions with regard to a man's nipples, armpits, ass, lips, back and body.

So really I have a naked male body fetish. :-)

With regard to my thoughts about the difference between fetish, preference and like:

Fetish - I agree with the dictionary, but I think that most people see a fetish as anything they deem way out or are uncomfortable thinking about doing.

Preference - Something that I like to do and would prefer it happen more often, but can still have great sex without it. Topping a hot ass would fit into this category for me.

Like - Something I enjoy but could live without doing. For me this would be getting tied up. Wait, or is this my secret fetish ;-)

So what brought this up for me this? This morning I received an IM on Bear411 from a guy that I have been chatting with that said, "I am so glad you have a foot fetish like me." Arghhhhhh, I had already explained to him that feet are not a fetish for me, but I guess he is just excited that he found someone to talk feet with. :-) He wants pics of my feet. I am sure the pics would turn him on more if my feet were doing lots of kinky things. I might just take pics for him just because it would be fun and different, but I am not prepared to talk endlessly about my feet or feet in general. I have been in that cycle before with someone else and it almost turned me off of feet.

So if you ever catch me looking longingly at some hot feet in flip-flops or sandals, yes I am lusting for them, but no I don't have a fetish for them ;-)

Quotes from my Bear411 Profile

2007-11-05T12:27:29Z

10/14/2007 -- A recent compliment that really made me giddy: "i'm very picky.. not a lot of guys on here interest me.. but you do :-)"

6/11/2007 -- A compliment I was paid recently: "Sweet heart Eric.. and you have a masculine charm with a youthful exuberance.. oh and that lovely butt munching slutty side that is SO appealing.."

5/11/2007 -- Adding obligatory bear profile phrase: "I am normally a big ol teddy bear, but get me into the bedroom and I turn ferocious! Don't worry, I don't bite... unless you want me too! GRRRRRR"

05/09/2007 -- As a bear am I obligated to have a picture taken of myself naked with a teddy bear covering my crotch?

03/24/2007 -- A recent compliment that sums up how I view myself: "....a nice, direct and down-to-earth, kinda trampy cuddle bear..."

Hiking Raven Cliff Falls

2007-09-05T11:27:12Z

A group of friends and I went hiking up to Raven Cliff Falls and had an awesome time. The weather was perfect, the hiking trail was extremely beautiful and the falls were amazing.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Raven_Cliff_Falls_(Georgia)

Here is the gang I went with:

A secondary water fall along the trail:

College boys enjoying the water:

The Raven Falls (note my pic is not as spectacular as the one on Wikipedia):

Taking it to the next level

2007-08-21T12:15:36Z

One thing I enjoy doing is playing fun practical jokes on co-workers. I generally do them to the co-workers I like and who I know will take it for the fun that is intended. In moderation fun practical jokes can help keep morale up and bring co-workers together.

I guess I played one too many on two of my co-workers because they definitely upped the bar with what they did to me. They completely saran wrapped my cube. They covered the top of my cube the front of my cube, my chair, my phone. They individually wrapped everything that was on my desk. They coverd the pics and other things that are hanging on my walls. They wrapped up my desk drawers, my files. They ran out of saran wrap and had to buy more!

I laughed so hard when I saw what had been done. Luckily I got into the office a little early because I had to cut open my phone and headset for a 7:30 a.m. conference call and it took 5 minutes using scissors I had to borrow from another co-worker (mine were sealed in saran wrap. I would have been frantic if I had arrived at 7:29 a.m. like I do quite a bit.

Hiking the Appalachian Trail

2007-04-23T10:01:02Z

Yesterday my friend Myles and I hiked up to the 6th highest summit in Georgia, Blood Mountain! The weather was great and there were very few people on the trail, and it was an absolutely perfect day for hiking. To get to the top we hiked a portion of the Appalachian Trail, 2 miles of the 2,000+ miles of the trail, but whose counting. The hike we did was considered moderate effort but my body doesn't quite agree with that. It was a steep climb up the mountain.

The only man made structure the Appalachian Trail goes through:

A view from about 2/3 of the way up:

The view from the top. There was a small forest fire burning in the distance.

Imagination

2007-02-27T12:00:32Z

Someone recently commented that my profile didn't leave enough to the imagination... I couldn't agree more... so...

Imagine you are standing in my bedroom facing my bed. I come up behind you, reach around, undo your belt and pants and then pull them down to your ankles.

Imagine me bending you over my bed; your butt crack beckons to me through your tightie whities. My cock is rock hard, it begs me to give it pleasure. I ignore it.

I kneel behind you and I rub my face and beard against your ass, you beg me to pull your underwear down, I do. I rub my beard against your bare ass, I run my tongue along your crack, I pull your ass cheeks apart. There in front of me is your beautiful hole...

My cock is enraged, it wants... it needs to be released, it wants, it needs to be inside you. I keep it inprisoned in my pants though, it needs to be patient. I can feel the wet spot forming where my cock slit rubs against my underwear...

I push my nose between your cheeks, I smell the sweet musk of your ass, it excites me, it tantalizes me... my cock is beside itself. It begs, it screams, it whimpers for me to release it. Still I do not.

My tongue brushes lightly against your hole, I feel your body quiver, I feel your hole loosening up. I push my tongue deeper into you, you moan, you squirm, you beg me not to stop. I eat your hole deep and hard...

... to be continued -- this is the imagination part ;-)

What an amazing weekend!!

2007-02-22T02:45:10Z

I turned 40 this weekend and I had a very hot group of out-of-towners to celebrate with!

I also had a very fun birthday party that included a lot of great guys from from here in ATL!

My own piece of hell

2007-02-01T13:37:37Z

Wrote this to someone and thought it summed up well, where I am at right now:

I am a man who is a little lost in life right now. I have a great job, a great apt., and I live in a great town. Unfortunately I don't have anyone to truly share it all with. I want a partner so bad but when it comes to actually opening up and sharing my life with someone I panic and drive them away.

I have created my own little place in hell! Actually just a cycle of unhappiness that I can't seem to move beyond.

One day I hope to find the man who succeeds in opening me up.

Loser or Superman?

2007-01-16T10:28:59Z

The question / compliment I hate is: "How is it possible that someone so good looking / handsome is single?" Trust me, I wish I fully understood why it is that I am single, unfortunately the only things I can come up with are:

1. I am a total loser and just lucked out with being half-way good looking.

or

2. I am in actuality superior to all other gay men and just cannot find someone as fabulous as me. And of course being so superior I could never settle on anyone less than perfect.

Actually the truth is, I am a complex man dragging around a bunch of baggage that I just can't seem to dump and although I have hope that there will come a man who can work with / around my baggage, I just have not found him yet.

Single, so Single

2006-12-28T12:09:32Z

Why am I single? This quote says it best: "Anyone who could want to go out with me must be crazy. And I'm not about to go out with a crazy person, because, you know, I've got standards."

Now the question is... Do I want to be single? No I do not. But do I want to be in a LTR that is monogamous? Nope. Right now I am looking for someone I can share my life with with very few strings attached.

Entries from my 411 Profile

2006-12-27T12:57:40Z

December 11, 2006 – If you believe in “love at first sight,” we are not compatible. If you believe in commitment and monogamy out of the shoot, then we are definitely not compatible. If you believe in lust and infatuation at first sight, then we might have some potential. If you believe love comes with time and a deep knowledge and understanding of the other person, we are probably very compatible.

December 8, 2006 – I find it interesting when a profile has “100% Masculine” in it. First off, I don’t believe any gay man is 100% masculine. Thank heavens! In fact I don’t think any man is 100% masculine. I might go with 100% masculine appearing though :-) So why does one feel a need to put masculine in their profile? Is it the fear that one day someone might threaten to paint their nails whore red? Or maybe it is the fear of actually liking having their nails whore red! So why does this whole 100% masculine thing even matter to me? To be honest, growing up, I was about 20% masculine (OK, 10%), and then in my 20s I discovered my masculinity and now I would say I am 85% masculine (except when I am drunk, then I am about 55% masculine). So yes, I am jealous of anyone who is more than 90% masculine, even though I think that makes them potentially very boring! :-)

December 7, 2006 -- "When they discover the center of the universe, a lot of people will be disappointed to discover they are not it."
- Bernard Bailey

So when are they going to discover that I am the center of the universe?

December 5, 2006 -- Daniel Craig is James Bond!! Hot, hot, hot!!!

November 28, 2006 -- "WARNING!! Eric is only out for the Conquest!" Unfortunately said about me a few times -- Do I consciously pursue people just to feel the rush of having conquered them? Absolutely not! Do I acknowledge that there are men that I have given this impression to? Yes I do. Do I admit that some times I am driven purely by lust? Yes I do. Have I had sex with a man and then after the lust goggles were removed realized that they were not what I wanted? Unfortunately yes. Do I get tired of men having unrealistic expectations about me created by their loneliness and insecurities? Like you would not believe. Do I get tired of men who say one thing and then their actions show they were talking out of their asses? Yes I do. Am I bitter? :-) Maybe a little bit!! :-)

November 21, 2006 -- "OK, I will admit it, Barbra Streisand in concert was just OK. So why do I feel bad admitting that. Am I feeling guilt for not being gay enough to love Babs for being Babs even when her concert was boring?"

November 18, 2006 -- "I say I'm a Top, but I so totally can't wait until someone outs me as the hungry pig bottom that I TRULY am!"